The #1 thing that I have encountered is that I am no longer eye candy. Before I was hurt I spent a great deal of time making myself to be more acceptable aka eye candy but now everything about me is not eye candy! I don’t get dressed, I NEVER look in the mirror, I have another person shower me and sometimes I have problems.
I am relatively young but I am not eye candy and people don’t like that!
The first sin in the Bible (before they ate the fruit) was about eye candy and the first time that Adam & Eve hid from God was because they knew that they were not eye candy and then opinions joined in with that.