I have 2 disabled sons so now I am like them too except that they have always been that way and I had 42 years of not being disabled. So what does that mean? I have always understood but now (living their life) I’m much more understanding than I ever was. I have absolutely NO expectations of them at all I’m just happy to be in contact with them. I have never been their age and disabled. Each one is doing the best that they can do so I am pleased and they seem to be pleased with their disabled father.