Luke 14:25-27 One day when large groups of people were walking along with him, Jesus turned and told them, 26 "Anyone who comes to me but refuses to let go of father, mother, spouse, children, brothers, sisters — yes, even one's own self! — can't be my disciple. 27 Anyone who won't shoulder his own cross and follow behind me can't be my disciple. So what does that mean: “shoulder his own cross”? Your cross is a place of disrespect and humiliation and not comfortable. The bottom place.